If the last time you went on a date was in the 80’s or 90’s then you may have a bit of a surprise with the new style dating of 2019. It’s not hard to see that a lot has changed around dating in the last 20 years but is it really that different? This article explores just how much has dating changed in the last 20 years?
How much has dating changed over the last 20 years?
Gone are the romantic days of courting and traditional dating, where you would go steady and eventually look at getting married. This traditional way of dating has been replaced with online dating sites, sexting and social media stalking of your potential new belle or beau.
If you’re over 40 dating, or looking to get back into dating then this whole new world of craziness may seem a little off putting or even scary to you. So here we are going to break down, what’s changed and how it differs to the traditional dating from 20 years ago.
What has changed in dating in the last 20 years?
Traditionally you would meet someone and ask them out for a date in person or over the phone. If things work out well on your first date you may end up going on a few more and maybe talk on the phone in between times. This kind of dating was very simple and the worst thing you had to worry about was whether the other person would be the right one for you.
In 2019 though, dating isn’t quite as simple. We have a whole host of dating sites for every kind of person, tinder and other dating apps, and forget talking over the phone, it’s all done by WhatsApp or Facebook messenger.
When you meet someone new you’ll find yourself stalking on social media to see what girls or guys have liked their pictures. And you already know they’re doing the same thing back to you.
Why modern life dating isn’t all bad
Okay, so this makes modern life dating sounds terrible. But it isn’t all bad, dating sites and apps have actually enabled us to meet more new people than ever before. If you don’t visit many places outside work or home and you’re looking for someone new then dating sites are a great way to do that.
You don’t need to go out to dating nights if you don’t want to and if you find that you don’t have enough time to date traditionally then you should definitely give online dating a go.
By reading a profile and chatting to or texting someone before you actually meet you end up saving time and money by working out if that person might be the right fit for you in the first place. No need to go on countless dates trying to find your soul mate, you can sift through a lot quicker and without the hassle.
I’m in my 40’s am I too old to trying online dating?
One worry you might have as an older person trying to date is whether you are simply too old to date online. But online dating is for absolutely anyone of any age. Dating websites such as older-dating.com offer a service exclusively aimed at anyone over the age of 40. So gone are the worries that you may look like a cougar or a cradle snatcher. You will be safe in the knowledge that anyone else on the site is roughly your age already.
How can I prepare for my next date
You may be worrying about how you can prepare for your next date, you may feel over the hill or a bit silly. If you’re feeling like you aren’t good enough anymore I can almost guarantee that whoever you are going on a date with will feel exactly the same. As long as you scrub up a bit and make yourself presentable you will be fine. You could make sure you have clean nails, Cleaner Ears and if you’re a man, ensure your beard is neat/clean shaven. But other than that, the most important thing is that you are yourself. Just before you go out, you may also wish to add some pheromones for men or women onto your skin – depending on what you choose, you could use these to help break the initial awkward ice, or to simply make yourself as attractive as possible to your date. But other than that, the most important thing is that you are yourself.
Why online dating can actually be better for the older generation
If you’re just getting back into dating after a divorce or break up and you feel like you just have too many current commitments to get back into dating. Online dating may be your magic answer. It’s a great way to ease back into dating without the worry that you’ll feel out of place.
With online dating you don’t have the worry of going out to meet new people and going on countless dates. You can meet someone new while you are at work or at home spending time with your family. And you can choose when to message or start a conversation them when you feel you are ready to.
On balance I think that the modern way of dating is still a great way to date especially with the stresses and strains of busy modern life. It may not be as traditional or even as romantic as it used to be but it’s definitely practical and can be just as fun!
This is a collaborative post.
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